Throughout history, the quest for the perfect libido boost has rivalled the Holy Grail and the Fountain of Youth in terms of demand. Let’s face it: in the beginning of a relationship, the newness is sexy in itself, but it sometimes takes a bit of work to make LTR or married sex hot and exciting.
Purported aphrodisiacs have ranged from the silly (oysters, anyone?) to the downright dangerous (Spanish fly can kill you. Not worth it.) And while there are plenty of pills that promise to get you in the mood, you don't always know what you're getting — and unfortunately, there aren’t a ton of options for women in that department.
So what can you do if you want to get down, but your libido is slacking off? If you’re looking for a prescription-free sex drive boost, these four natural aphrodisiacs will help do the trick, without making you sick.
This is one natural aphrodisiac that will benefit your life both in and out of the sack. Getting in a good workout can help your sex drive in multiple ways. First, movement helps to stimulate blood flow all over your body, and blood flow to your downstairs is an important aspect of the sexual response cycle. Secondly, those feel-good endorphins you get after a great run or lifting session can help reduce any stress that can stop your libido dead in its tracks.
Plus, the added confidence of watching your muscles grow can inspire you to be bold in the bedroom, showing off your skin, striking sexy poses and trying new, more physically challenging moves. LTR or married sex starting to bore you? Switch it up with some acrobatic positions.
One more thing: if you go right from the weight bench to the bedroom, you can benefit from the increase in testosterone you can get from a heavy bench press or squat. Testosterone can raise libido in both women and men, so get thee to a barbell!
The brain is your most important sexual organ, so sometimes the best natural aphrodisiac is to jog the imagination. Has it been awhile since your felt that surge of passion that makes sex happen? Try heading over to GoodReads and see what’s highly rated in the world of erotica. If you’re new to sexy literature, the user reviews and genres can help guide you to your next fantasy. Plus, the dialogue can help you level up your dirty talk game, which can also liven things up when LTR or married sex gets dull.
Massage isn’t just a great excuse to get your hands all over your partner’s naked bod — it’s also a great natural aphrodisiac. Too stressed to get turned on? The relaxation of a good massage can help you focus more on physical intimacy and less on your work deadlines. Plus, massage stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, which can lead to sexual arousal in itself, even if you haven’t gone near your partner’s goodies yet.
Chocolate has long been reputed as a natural aphrodisiac, as it purportedly triggers the brain to produce norepinephrine (which gets your heart racing) and dopamine, a natural pleasure chemical. Unfortunately, the jury’s still out on whether chocolate is as tantalizing as some studies promise, but this is one natural aphrodisiac that we’re willing to take a chance on — try taking turns feeding each other some rich dark chocolate in the most seductive way possible. If nothing else, you’re still eating chocolate, and that’s a win in our book.
And once you’ve pulled all the natural stops, lube up! Don’t let a little dryness keep you down when your sex drive is otherwise revved up. Sometimes, just feeling wet — even if it’s from a bottle — can send that signal to your brain that says, “Let’s go.” If you want a bit of extra tingle, a warming lube might be your personal aphrodisiac. If you’re planning a long night, silicone lube is your best friend. Whatever your pleasure, there’s a personal lube for you.
What do you do to get in the mood? What’s your favorite way to spice up LTR or married sex? Let us know by tweeting us @Astroglide!
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