How many times have you found yourself bored in a relationship? The article “Wanting More” on DatingThoughts.com, a blog written by a group of 30-something professionals out of San Francisco, hypothesizes that human beings can seem insatiable when it comes to relationships. It suggests that we tend to reject the sameness and order in our world as it disrupts the chaos that creates excitement, which in relationships we perceive as happiness. The author theorizes that at the beginning of a relationship, the only expectation is to have fun. But as the relationship matures, questions, definitions and higher expectations tend to creep into the picture. It’s the moment in time that one person in the relationship realizes he/she needs something better, something different, something MORE to be satisfied once again and that the relationship starts to fall apart. Once one person wants more from the relationship than the other, it inevitably starts dwindling and straying away from the once fresh and exciting affair that it once was. This is what the author calls the “inevitable letdown”.
However, there’s no need to believe that all relationships are a never-ending cycle of excitement and letdown. Many relationships do survive past the “honeymoon period” into something deeper such as moving in, getting a pet together, marriage, and eventually kids. Each step marks a change. But for a relationship to grow and survive, something must always be changing and both involved need to be willing to take that next step.
The article concludes that failed relationships occur for any number of reasons, but many boil down to one person just wanting more than the other. So make sure you know what you want out of your relationship before pushing for more. If you’re too pushy you may find yourself where you started, back at square one.
What do you think? Do you think human insatiability is to blame for failed relationships or is it something else? Leave us your thoughts and comments below.
