Vaginal dryness can be a problem for some women who have undergone a hysterectomy, so know that you’re not alone! In tackling vaginal dryness, the best and most important thing you can do is to talk to your gynecologist about the symptoms that you’re experiencing. In determining the cause (beyond having had a hysterectomy), your doctor may test your hormone levels. If needed, your doctor may prescribe hormone supplements or an estrogen cream, or explore alternative therapies and vaginal moisturizers with you.
No matter what, use lubricant when sexually active, as this will diminish pain and discomfort, making things more pleasurable. (Note: you or your partner may need to reapply frequently, especially if you’re using a water-based lubricant.) Take your time when making love, allowing your body to get as turned on as possible. Talk to your partner about the kinds of mental and physical sexual stimulation you need in maximizing excitement.
Practice Kegel exercises in strengthening your pelvic floor muscles and reclaim your sex life. To identify the muscle group, pretend like you’re trying to stop the flow of urine. You’ll want to then hold these muscles for 10 counts, striving for 10 repetitions in a single exercise session. Aim to practice Kegels three times per day to increase sensations, thanks to a better grip, during sex. You’ll also, ultimately experience better blood flow to the pelvic region as you exercise these muscles, which will assist with vaginal lubrication.
Finally, take the time to condition your vulva and vaginal walls, as in perform a regular massage, with your hands, a dildo, or vibrator, and lube, to gently stretch and strengthen your skin. You want to press and release the fluid into your skin (versus rub or stroke it). Over time, this will condition your skin, helping to increase blood flow, flexibility and tissue resiliency.
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